Who Are You When No One Else is Looking?

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Reposed from April 2012

I once read a quote that stated, “You are, who you are, when no one else is looking”.

Is that true?

I believe it is, and that it says a lot about us.

Now, if you’re human like I am you might find this concept thought provoking, as well as, or should I say maybe, somewhat possibly, just so slightly convicting. 🙂

When we’re by ourselves we tend to let our guard down and relax. We’re less uptight and worried about what the rest of the world is thinking about us. We might even do a silly dance or sing a song when we would never do that in public. Things like that are good and even healthy.

On the other hand, when we’re in public most of us wear a mask. That mask isn’t really meant to totally hide who we are, but to protect us and remind us that we need to keep our carnal nature in check.

Just as most of us learn to keep that nature in check while in public, we need to also keep it in check when no one is looking.

Here are a couple scenarios for you. You’re coming out of the grocery store and as you’re pushing your cart between two cars you become distracted and run your cart up against one of them and leave an ugly scrape. You look around and no one has seen what you did.

What do you do?

Do you rush off, put your groceries in the car and take off grateful that no one saw you? Or do you leave a note with your contact information on the windshield, or go into the store and have the owner of the car paged and take care of the situation?


You come out of the store, put your groceries in the trunk, look at your receipt and realize that the cashier gave you too much change back or maybe you didn’t get charged for something.

What do you do?

Do you smile and think about how you were just blessed? Do you say to yourself, well it’s about time the shoe was on the other foot, how many times have they probably over charged me? Or do you go back into the store and explain what happened and give the money back or pay for the product?

Let me ask you a couple more questions.

Have you ever looked at things on the computer that you would never want anyone else to know about?

Have you ever taken supplies from work in the past that you did not pay for?

Have you bumped up against something in a store, knocked it down and scurried off without picking it up?

I will not cast the first stone, because I like most other people, have taken advantage of not being caught in the past. But, that was the past, and our past should not equal our present or future.

Fortunately, because we have an advocate, Jesus our Christ, who has already taken the wrap for the things we did; we can move beyond the things of the past.

And in moving beyond those things of the past, “who are we going to be now when no one else is looking”?

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  • I have always heard integrity defined as “who you are when no one’s looking.” The answer to your questions is do the right thing. In my life, it is do the “Christ thing.”

    • Mike

      I would say if you do the Christ thing, you are doing the right thing. Not always easy though.

  • floyd

    I’m not perfect, I guess only One that walked this earth can, but I like you strive to do the right thing, not for anyone but the One I serve. I’ve had on several occasions scraped cars in parking lots with my big truck and have left notes with my name and number and paid to fix their cars. Just last Sunday my wife discovered the cashier didn’t charge us for the laundry detergent, we didn’t even say much, I handed it to my wife who automatically went to pay as I went to load. There are more intricate scenarios in business that become matters of the heart, I have to pray and seek for God’s wisdom in those scenarios. These are issues that even non Christians a few decades back would do, now even the Christians are looking for an angle to get ahead in life physically…

    • Mike

      What’s funny is now days when you do the right thing some people look at you like you’re a bug. I remember going in to pay for something that I wasn’t charged for and the cashier looking weird at me for doing that. You’re right about even non Christians tending to do the right thing a few decades ago. It’s amazing the changes that can happen in a generation or two. Just look at ancient Israel; they went from a group of people making an oath to obey God, to worshiping false idols and gods a couple generations later. It doesn’t seem to take long for a people to walk away from God for some reason. I guess a big part of that reason would be our adversary.